In and around the world many ladies can never become a mother. When they get to know about the fact that they can never have a baby, they are shattered. It’s one of the worst news a lady can ever imagine. A person never expects news like this. The news is quite shocking for them as well as for their family. They get emotionally disturbed. The doctors try to console them and suggest them to go for test tube baby, IVF or adoption.

In vitro fertilization (IVF) is a process of fertilization where an egg is combined with sperm outside the body, in vitro (“in glass”). The process involves monitoring and stimulating a woman’s ovulatory process, removing an ovum or ova (egg or eggs) from the woman’s ovaries and letting sperm fertilize them in a liquid in a laboratory. After the fertilized egg (zygote) undergoes embryo culture for 2 to 6 days, it is implanted in the same or another woman’s uterus, to establish a successful pregnancy.

Victoria was a lady who was trying for a baby for 3 years. After three years of trying she and her husband realized that there was something wrong. When Victoria was 33years old, they started to see a fertility specialist. The doctors said, “Your levels are as that of 48 years old.”

They started with IUI and did about five rounds. She only got a few follicles to fully grow after all the shots and medicines her body could consume. After a laparoscopic procedure, Victoria was diagnosed with endometriosis and low ovarian reserve.

Injections and medicines for a few more months in preparation for IVF and she finally got two mature follicles. Most people would never consider IVF with only 2 eggs but then, that was the best that they could do to have a baby. So, they tried. When she woke up from her retrieval procedure to a grim look on his husband’s face. She was sure that this was the time. She was ‘expecting’. Sadly, neither eggs ended up fertilizing. It was a shocker for them. She laid on a cold table crying. So hopeless. So broken. So alone.

Their doctor suggested them to move on to donor eggs. She wanted to be a mom to someone who would take her and call her mom. Before her last IVF cycle, she thought about the donor eggs. In the back of her mind, she had thought that this also may not work like the previous ones. She was mentally preparing for this.

Victoria secretly started doing research. She didn’t even tell her husband. Through research, she got to learn that donor eggs had a high probability of working and also allowed her a chance to be someone’s biological mother. After a lot of crying and screaming. She decided to go for the donor eggs. She didn’t care about what her body has to go through or even the finances. She badly wanted to be a mother. They started down the route of using an egg donor. Their doctor said that there were about 90% chances of success.

They chose their donor who looked just like Victoria. She had a similar background and family history. They never met her personally, but the agency provided a lot of information about the donor to them. The donor started her appointments and medicines. The doctor informed everything to Victoria step by step. It was not easy for Victoria to see the process from aside. Though, her doctor made her feel important and connected through the whole process.

The day before the donor’s IVF egg retrieval, the doctor called Victoria and said,” I’m so sorry Victoria, your donor is like you, even her eggs are like yours.” She had lost more than half of her follicles overnight and only had 4 that matured, which was not enough. Victoria immediately felt an oppressive feeling of sadness. But this time, she wasn’t sad about herself. It was for her egg donor. Victoria’s heart hurt for her. Victoria kept thinking about her. At 28 years, she was facing a real-life game changer.

They didn’t know what to do next, but they knew that they needed a break. They kept their other dreams on hold because their fertility treatment took all their money. They decided to take a year off, travel around the world, and focus on themselves for the first time in a long time.

Victoria had been grieving for a long time. She tried everything. Podcasts, yoga, and writing. She was going through turmoil because of her infertility.

At a point, she even thought to quit everything. She was facing a lot of tension, financial issues, and marital issues. She constantly used to question herself that is this all worth the pain and stress. After a point, she thought enough is enough. How long she could be angry and sad. Infertility showed Victoria a new version of herself. She started to look at the brighter side. This was the only curveball in her life. She had so much in life that she should be grateful for. She fell in love with her husband in a more intense way. He has her back always. He chose to be with her knowing the fact that she is infertile. She considers herself quite lucky.

Finally, she got pregnant. After a long break, a lot of healing, a new doctor, and a new donor. Their miracle was made. The baby came to Victoria when she was strong and ready. Miss Florence Viola, was born on their 9th wedding anniversary. The beautiful rainbow after an ugly storm was their daughter.

“I did not give you the gift of life,

Life gave me the gift of you.”


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