The 3 Deadly Wraths
We sin on the daily–hourly, even; but we perhaps fancy wrath (anger) the most. The beauty, expression, and truth in wrath, anger, or rage awe me.
People in psychology departments across the world have been busy. They say, anger is of three types: assertive anger, open aggression, and passive aggression.
However, I looked not at anger within couples or fury, the war kind. Instead, I took up wrath, and three types soon came to mind.
There is the natural instinctive wrath, for which we fight forever. Second, intelligent wrath needs planning. Last, grudge wrath, the deadliest, spans the longest time.
A natural predisposition triggers some more easily than others. Thus, displays of wrath appear more in some lives. This is instinctive wrath, which is inseparable from man.
Not all have broken mirrors or got in fights. Yet, under our noses, we impose wrath on the weaker; and we seldom know it.
So what does instinctive wrath look like? I could not provide a vivid description, but I know that it makes you say and do demeaning things. Thus, it ruins your status but nobody else’s.
Instinctive wrath can lose you your job. Imagine you got sick of your boss and flipped a desk, spilled a coffee, or locked fists. By contrast, suppose you dealt with it in the brave way: by using words, not force.
Television–do you know, it makes you angrier? Not only do video games show violence but also TV shows, news, and the daily these days are full of it. Man is social being, osmotic, and so, he soaks up this negativity. Guess what: we need an outlet.
We show anger where the weak are, and to those who cannot defend themselves: women and children. In addition, we attack our brothers. Later, we realise the horror we have brought, and we feel guilty.
Like the sly fox, man always works to his own advantage. He must advance by aligning the resources in his disposal but be responsible, too.
Yet, knowingly, we work to harm others not physically but in the end. We make a call here and give misleading advice there. Next, we are shortening our long work hours by burdening others with our work and getting away.
For example, “I do not know”–yes, you see correctly. Often, a wayfarer asks for directions; kids ask annoying questions; and people search for their lost things. In response, we say, we do not know. In reality, we, fearing wasting our time, use the reply as a cunning shield: “Do it on your own time.”
Where does string pulling end and threatening begin? When do teen rebels turn into mafia dons? Who inspires teenage militants?
First, string pulling is not okay in the first place, especially involving bribery, corruption, and nepotism. Second, mobsters would not commit crime if there were less disparity. Third, low spirits along with an intelligent thirst to fill that gap cause teens to take up militancy.
A grudge, the most interesting kind of wrath, is long resentment of someone’s past actions. Unlike the other kinds, grudges burrow deep into the heart.
Again, the person we hold a grudge for has no idea. By stark contrast, he or she may think we like or even love him or her. Grudges blacken our otherwise pure hearts and activate at unexpected times. Thus, they ruin friendships, partnerships, and relationships.
Further, grudges take up little space in the physical world. However, like a dense black hole, everything around them sinks in. In that cataclysmic sense, a grudge is like a ticking time bomb, too. In one spur of the moment, everything we know can change forever.
Suppose one is angry with his friend for her having been avoiding him lately. He lacks the courage to bring up the elephant in the room, so the grudge lies dormant for months. In this frame, everything they do together is at least uncomfortable.
Later, he finally puts together from flimsy sources the rumours about her new friend. (Grudges can blur out the good in someone.) As a result, he confronts her, and either party may get an injury during the climax.
Finally, what can you do? First, when you get angry, distract yourself by diverting your focus to yourself using “I” sentences. Besides, think before you speak, and find creative outlets for the wrath. Moreover, not exercising makes you grumpy whereas jokes help you reduce your anger.